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Welcome to my 2nd blog - or RosesandTea x 2. This blog is for more serious, controversial or specifically Christian entries. I hope you will enjoy your time here.

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Previous posts of note: Reviews of chapters of Created to Be His Help Meet: Chapters 5 & 6 Chapters 7 & 8 Chapters 9 & 10 Chapters 11 & 12 Chapters 13 & 14 Chapters 15 &16 Chapters 17 &18 Chapter 19 Chapter 20 (More of my thoughts which springboard from Chapter 20) Chapter 21 Chapters 22 & 23

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Jun 8, 2005
Created to Be His Help Meet, chapter 20

This chapter is very short; just four pages long.  It is about the mandate to be "keepers at home" or as my favorite version, the NASB puts it, being "workers at home."   I just wonder, when no one would debate the fact that "young" women are still to be sensible, pure, discreet, chaste, etc, why suddenly the issue of being a keeper/worker at home becomes culturally bound and therefore irrelevant to women in the 21st century?
The definition of keeper in this phrase is not just about staying at home, but of being a guardian, caretaker, someone who watches over the home.  There is so much to do at home, besides the basics of cooking and cleaning.

There is the watching of children, of caring for them - this is more than just keeping them from physical danger, but of guiding them into right activities and fostering growth in spirit and mind as well as body. 

Mrs. Pearl spends some time on the issue of women who would like to stay at home, but whose husbands want them to work.  The key is to have the right attitude, of wanting to both obey God in the issue of staying at home but also of being submitted to one's husband and trusting God to work out any conflict.  She suggests ways of making an appeal and then if it is granted, of learning to live frugally.

She gives several excellent suggestions, but I know that it is sometimes the man who wants the fancier and more expensive items and lifestyle, and I wish Mrs. Pearl would have spent a little more time on this situation.  I know the answer would be to submit and commit it to the Lord, but I still wish she would have given some encouragement to wives in this position. 

I have found Amy Dacyzyn's (sp?) books to be very helpful in learning to think of ways to be frugal.  She wrote a newsletter called the Tightwad Gazette and later put the various issues into books, still called the Tightwad Gazette (there's a II and a III I think).  Another thing I find helpful in learning to budget is to learn thankfulness and contentment.

I am not perfect in the budget arena but I am grateful to be able to do what I feel God has called me to do, to be a home-worker and a full-time mother to my children.  Some days I need to put my heart into it a little more, but that is part of the sanctification I hope that God is working in my life.

Mrs. Pearl discusses the modern phenomena of women leaving home via their phones and computers although they may still physically be in the home itself.  The issues are idleness and gossip.

She finishes by painting a picture of a woman busy at home, doing good to both her children and husband and keeping the home "so that when Daddy comes home, it is to a sanctuary of peace, love, and order." (p.212)

Tall order, but what a blessing when we acheive it!

Posted at 10:34 am by Rosesandtea

Posted by Elena @ 06/13/2005 03:00 PM PDT
Well, that's interesting...the newest comments at the top. I'm used to Haloscan...
Posted by Elena @ 06/13/2005 02:59 PM PDT
I've not explored your blog much yet, so I may not have found a post in which you addressed this, but what would you say to single Christian woman about the things Debi Pearl is teaching? How can we put into practice now the principles of being a woman surrendered to God? What does that life look like? Especially if one is older (I'm almost 30) and does not live with parents anymore (I live alone) and works?

I started looking for Debi's book Friday and didn't find it at my Christian bookstore, so the hunt continues. I'm looking forward to reading it.
Posted by NameRuth S @ 06/10/2005 02:50 AM PDT
Ahhhh, I think I understand. I do believe there is an awful lot of peace and joy that we get from doing the righteous thing. I suppose what I'm saying, although heavily influenced by my Saturday teaching, is that I can't be righteous in my own strength. I *have* to have a continual infilling of the Holy Ghost before I can even step into these arenas. My self-effort quickly deteriorates I suppose is what I'm trying to say :-)
Posted by Rosesandtea @ 06/09/2005 01:10 PM PDT
Hm, it may be the way I am putting things across and not her.
I guess she is trying to communicate that the key to joy is in *obedience* to God. She speaks a lot about joy and about if we live as God tells us to, that marriage can be glorious and heavenly.

She does have stern warnings and tells things like she sees them - but there is a fair amount of humor and the goal she is trying to steer her readers to is obedience which will lead to a happy marriage in most cases. She does mention joy and peace a fair bit.

Learning to submit, to be content, and to be self-sacrificing takes a lot of grace, I think. This is written to wives only, so the grace that is emphasized is that which we receive from Christ, and then that which we need to extend to our husbands and children, as they are imperfect.

Again, it may be just the way I am communicating that makes it sound negative - although some people don't like the rather blunt way the Pearls come across. Some of it may be their personalities, and I think that's probably part of it, but part of it - the most of it, I think - is their heart for seeing people set free from wrong thinking and acting, and getting in line with what God has said for Christians to do. Joy will follow.

I have to say that I have had more peace and joy myself as I have tried to implement some of the changes talked about in the book. More later on that.

I know what you're saying about community - but what is being talked about, are idleness and gossip, and not doing the "shoulds" in order to hang out with the girls.

I am sure there was visiting going on, and a lot of helping each other. But going from house to house sets up in my mind the endless coffee klatches and always being out visiting. You know? And the 21st century version would be too much time at the computer - of which I am guilty many days!!

Posted by NameRuth S @ 06/09/2005 12:32 PM PDT
Hi, I haven't read this book, but has she taken into account that the community thing is very important for women and certainly would have been when the Bible was written.

I'm thinking of Mary going to stay with Elizabeth during her last months of pregnancy . Presumably this was to help her practically, but she must have gained a lot of spiritual/emotional support also.

This kind of extended family/community spirit is much less evident in the 21st Century which creates a stressful living environment.

I guess I'm trying to defend the computer/telephone woman and flagging it up as her means of communication with the outside world!

Sorry it's so long, but having skimmed over a lot of posts about this author's book, I can't not an awful lot about the joy and grace of the christian life. Is this an unfair comment?
 

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