Chapters 13 and 14 are about the duty of a wife to "reverence" her husband.  This is based on Ephesians 5:33 " Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband".   Now as this book is about how we as women should act or react, she does not deal with the first part of the verse.

Mrs Pearl writes on page 137, "Reverence is not just how you act; it is how you feel and how you respond with words and with your body language." 

On Molly's blog we were discussing the difference between giving one's husband facts he may not know, or reminding him of something, in a deferential (or "reverential") way, as opposed to acting like he just doesn't have a clue.  Sometimes it seems like there is a fine line.  Molly hits it on the head and reiterates what Debi Pearl is trying to communicate here when she says if it is in this spirit :"I'd better help you since YOU obviously don't know what you're doing," then that is not what we're after.  Another commenter on that post, and an IRL friend of mine also were helpful to me by giving phrases that they have used or could imagine using sometime.  (I have a "phrase bank" in my head - I keep useful phrases there to help me know what to say, or to tweak as needed for various circumstances.)   

I have been so discouraged sometimes when watching women who do the opposite of reverence their husbands.  Telling jokes at the husband's expense (although sometimes that might be permissible - if very carefully done and with hubby's permission), especially if at all off-color or casting doubts on his intelligence or abilities, telling the husband publically he is talking too much, disagreeing in a negative, "I know better" way with him etc etc.   And I realize I am guilty of some of those listed or of others not listed.  I hope I am getting better as I have walked through the years of my marriage, and especially lately as I have been reading this book.   I think I have excused a few things or not counted them as important, and have started to see things from dh's perspective a little more, maybe.  I've been more aware about my need to change things.

This awareness struggles with the knowledge that sometimes I AM right, and dh is wrong, but the issue is my attitude and my respect, not whether dh is doing  or being or thinking whatever is really right.
Mrs Pearl spells out her definition of reverence on page 141  "The very heart of reverence is extreme appreciation and profound thankfulness that this man, just as he is, has chosen to love me, just as I am."